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Listen within

The feeling of butterflies deep in your belly, calls attention for the mind to listen.
That upset stomach pain or the racing heart always indicates the restlessness of the spirit within.
We were born with a complexity of feelings meant to serve and protect us in our everyday life. Unfortunately, as we grow older, the negative feelings are so disturbing that we slowly begin to ignore and close up those feelings. With each day and each painful feeling, we bury our feelings alive.
When it comes to our spirit, it does not die, neither do the feelings; even though we think we have suffocated and killed them. Feelings are simply quiet, sometimes irritable, and often persistent within of us. They do not like to be ignored or forgotten, so you will usually be sideswiped with tears or anger from out of nowhere.

Pay attention to what you feel.

Yes, you must listen to the voice within in order to figure out the messages that each feeling has for you. Feelings serve to teach, elevate, love, create, and guide each one of us throughout this life journey. When we lose the compass deep within, we travel off course.

Listen within for guidance.

One must not mistake the messages you hear from others with the words from within; for only each spirit knows the steps on the map. The mind acts as the compass if we just surrender to our navigator. Do not think you heard the direction. Wait for clarity from listening within. Do not doubt, fear, or avoid listening to the voice within. The sounds will be muffled and won’t be heard clearly. Listen attentively with eagerness, anticipation, and love, knowing that this day will be paved with guidance and blessings.

All that must be heard from within is made known to us by a gradual process (one at a time). Nothing more. Do not overthink the message because when you do, that is when you get lost and lose the way. For it is hard to remember all the guidance at once. In fact, we often get mixed up with which move comes first, causing detours and U-turns in life.
You might not agree with the direction the voice ask you to go after listening, but we must trust our feelings.

Have you ever been lost after ignoring the directions some else told you? Each move is meant to teach us, remember? Even when we have ignored the guidance within, we can still choose to redirect our focus within, listen and obey the next time.

It is never too late!
Feelings hold the previous messages from our spirit, so listen within!


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Never Saw It Coming

Life has a way of surprising us at every turn. A person wakes up to the phone call telling of a death in the family. We head down for breakfast and slip on the carpet, only to be rushed to the hospital with a back injury. As we venture out for lunch, we get hit by a car in the parking lot, only to slow us down.
What in your life did you not see coming?

The joy of a new friend saying hello in a nail salon, resulting in a deep friendship over the years. Or the surprise of promotion because someone saw something in you that you did not see in yourself. What about that amazing, loving glance from another that connects souls in an instant and then results in a marriage that lasts for a lifetime?
Life is full of moments that we never saw coming! Moments, neither good nor bad, but precious moments to jolt us awake to a new reality. When you never saw it coming, there is an element of surprise, adventure, uneasiness, and invigoration. Sometimes, those very moments cripple you to your knees or create dance moves you never knew you had!
I never saw so much of my life coming! Did you? 

Good or bad, it is a test in resiliency and gratitude! Each unexpected moment could have never been dreamt up or desired. Each with its precious gift bestowed with the surprise. The gift of growth for the one that embraces the adventure versus the one who rejects it with disdain.
We don’t willingly choose the shifts to happen in us, nor do we seek it. This is why we must not be blindsided by the moments that we never saw coming. It is the only way to force the shift in a person towards their purpose. We naturally resist change and covet the expected, which makes us unsettled for a while when we are jolted by something we never saw coming.
It is all in the greater plan. A plan that was mapped out before we were born. A purpose-filled plan for our lives. Sometimes, it takes longer to stay on course and readjust, but the roadmap is there for our lives. Only when we are not going along with the navigation do we often feel a sense of surprise and say, “Never saw it coming,” yet sometimes God surprises us with the impactful blessings to say thank you and we never saw that coming either!

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I think of a piece of dead wood drifting down the river without a care in the world. A bird drifts in the sky, catching the wind and then fully relaxes into the glide. Butterflies seem to just flit about but are drifting helplessly under the summer sky. A boat has the option to drift without anchor or the controlled power from the motor.
What else can you think of that drifts through life?

Drifting can often be considered a form of laziness, having no direction, or worse yet, just out of control. For so many, control is the holy grail of success, but is it?
I don’t think there is a feeling better than immersing yourself in the water and allowing your body to float and drift with the current. The body goes limp and has no resistance to the pressure of the day, expectations of others, and cannot grab onto anything to control. The water is elusive.
Allowing yourself to drift periodically through life is like permitting yourself to let go of everything in this life. If you give up control, drifting can be healing, rejuvenating, meditative. It is a form of self-care.
Practice giving yourself a day to drift in the moments as they come. If you can float in water, that’s even better. It will take you back to a time before birth, when we merely drifted in our mother’s womb without a care, just been free.
Can you give yourself the gift of drifting? If just for a moment, let your thoughts drift to a pleasurable height and see how that makes you feel. Learn to cherish the drift. It is where you will find your soul waiting.
It is not surprising that nature’s creatures have mastered the art of drifting. For with drifting comes calmness, peace, and solitude. Drift away and be engulfed in your dreams, desires, and pleasures. The rejuvenation awaits!

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What fuels you?


This is a word with so many meanings. What immediately comes to mind when you think of this word? Fuel on the surface is something that creates energy. As a verb, it is a substance which powers, ignites, and inflames.
What fuels you? What produces that energy in you?

For many, it might be their family, community, career, or perhaps something much deeper. Whatever creates a burning passion in your belly is the fuel for your life. Each day that passes without enough passion makes us drained, tired, uninspired, and weak.

What are you passionate about?

Some people struggle through their life without feeling energized. They are existing, going through the outward motions of living but are not fueled by any passion that ignites true life in them.

Is this you?

Finding a purpose as a fuel to power you up every day beyond the existing mundane is another powerful energy source. Purpose comes in many forms and can be widely explored and mined.

Purpose and Passion are the most precious fuels that cost nothing but must be sourced from within one’s self, not from the outside world. The mining of this fuel can be done at an early age and it just grows with intensity and abundance. When Passion and Purpose are only excavated later in life, it is much harder to chisel away the layers to discover them.
It is a sustainable and renewable energy that never changes its firm grip.
Purpose and Passion exist in each of us. It is simply about making a choice to go on that adventurous discovery process to mine that which is abundant within. To know that this is our life’s energy source, it makes the exploration process a powerful and tempting discovery.
When searching for our purpose and passion, it takes awakening your desire and heightening your curiosity level to endure the painful and dark days that come along the way. Many people do not desire or crave the energy, so they never go digging!

Have you gone digging? What is stopping you?

If you knew you would find the most precious, valuable thing on earth that no one could steal from you, would you go searching?

You have it within you!

Treasure yourself. You are the most precious and unique thing on earth, and your Passion and Purpose are waiting to fuel you!

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Pieces and Parts

Pieces and parts are incomplete, useless, and meaningless.

A puzzle piece tells us nothing about the final picture. It confuses us with the unique texture and colors because it does not look like it is matchable with any other piece on the table. Even with the vision of the final picture on the top of the storage box, we find ourselves at a loss as to how to begin the puzzle. Big or small pieces makes no difference. If the textures and colors of other pieces look similar to the one we have in our hand, then we tend to gravitate toward starting with making a connection there.

But, wait! That similar looking piece that’s supposed to match up and looks like it’s supposed to connect with us, does not! This only adds to our continued confusion, frustration, anxiousness, and fear that we will never get the puzzle put together.

With a bit of perseverance, a pause, and an openness to start just by trying to make connections with any piece in front of us, voila, we miraculously make a match. This small, but meaningful match, fills us with a bit of hope, energy, and strength to try the next connection. In the beginning, most attempts are met with failure, but the few matches give momentum to the spirit to keep going. The vision always in view, acting as a beacon of hope and reference to what we are looking to create.

As the hour moves to a day or a week, we sit with progress toward finishing the puzzle. Undisturbed on the table, we walk by it on the way to work and try again to make a match. Over the evening chat, we share stories of our busy day and meander a glance around the table in hopes of making connections. Some days, we are on a roll. The matches seem to be detected effortlessly and the puzzle seems to be coming into view. Other days, we can stare at what is obvious and yet nothing makes sense. Others might offer a helping hand or give advice on how to connect the pieces, but it makes no difference. Have you experienced that? Despite someone seeing it clearly, we cannot. We do not allow them to lift the piece for us, we must complete the puzzle on our own.

After a week or so, we start asking for help. We so desire to have the puzzle complete. Others are not allowed to complete the puzzle but only provide helpful advice that will help our roadmap to the next view. As we meet success and connections, we can feel the momentum inside our thoughts, our energy rises, and the anticipation of completing the vision is more than we can stand.

It is tempting to put the last few pieces together and complete the picture. However, you can feel a bit sad as well in the process. The moments and days have been full of wonder and adventure with this puzzle, so after it is complete, what next? Will there be another puzzle to do?

For those that are glad the puzzle exercise is over, they will sit in a relieved state and never look at a puzzle again. They found it too tough, too painful, and too time-consuming to create the final puzzle.

Yet, for many, the joy and happiness of completing the puzzle is so profound that one cannot help but look forward to the next puzzle. Perhaps, will it be more pieces? Or, perhaps, will it be more complicated? That does not deter the one that has fallen in love with the pieces and the puzzle. They have discovered that the pieces make a masterpiece.

They have learned that with a puzzle you must keep your vision open to possibilities beyond what is obvious. Patience was practiced daily so that perseverance could be exercised as well. Asking for help was no longer out of the question. So many lessons learnt from working on the puzzle that there is much more confidence built to help create the next one.

Where else do we encounter pieces in our life?

Pieces of a broken glass that used to be able to nourish us with water. Pieces of a broken figurine that was once adored, got swept up and tossed in the garbage without any consideration. Pieces of leftover fabric after a beautiful dress was made are mere scraps and worthless to the seamstress. Pieces of a recipe, like the added flavor from spice.

It is hard to see the value in the pieces and parts, which is why we treat them as garbage and toss them out of site. For they are the after effects of something, the results of something happening. But, does that make them worthless? No.

A recipe is only complete when the spices are added into it. Glass scraps can be molded into a piece of art. The ceramic pieces from the figurine could be patched together to make a vase. The scraps of fabric can be sewn together for another dress that is more unique.

Simply put, pieces and parts can have more value if we do something that is purposeful with them.  We need to see the potential, believe in the potential, and take our time to create the completed work. Like the puzzle, it takes a vision of what is, to align the eyes to see the potential. Knowing the vision and seeing it so clearly allows you to believe every day.  The patience of working with the pieces and creating the right connections is where the magic is found.

Sometimes, you might not even have enough scraps of fabric to complete the newly “visioned-out” dress, so one must wait for more pieces. Ironically, now that there is a purpose for the pieces, one sees the value in the pieces and quickly shifts the thinking from worthless to needed and treasured. The anxiousness for more broken pieces or more scraps becomes more intense. Now, no longer are the pieces a nuisance. They are sought after because one has learnt that they can create even greater treasures with the pieces, or unique things that are beautiful.

What are the pieces and parts of you that you think are worthless, not valued or treasured?

What are the broken pieces of yourself that you have buried deep as scraps and have considered useless, in an effort to ensure that the broken pieces do not hurt you? We know that the rough edges of broken pieces always can cut.

A person’s life is made up of lots of pieces and parts. Some are broken parts and other pieces are simply collected along the way daily. Experiences create many pieces and parts. Often, there are so many pieces and parts that we choose to separate them into the useless pieces and the valuable ones. In the baggage we carry around, we can easily connect and identify the beauty in each of the valuable pieces. They seem to go together effortlessly, like some of those puzzle pieces.

Yet, despite the beautiful connections made with the valuable pieces, we are incomplete. We are incomplete because we do not recognize the value in the broken parts we carry around. We have missing holes in what we see as the vision and picture of our life, but we cannot find the missing parts and pieces to complete the vision.

We are made whole when we choose to keep an open mind about the broken pieces we carry around. Just like the disregarded puzzle pieces discussed early on in the process, we disregard and ignore our broken parts. It is only when we layout all the pieces of ourselves in full view that we can see the connections between the broken and beautiful pieces.

Keeping all the brokenness buried does not serve to complete us. It simply serves to frustrate us, cause anxiousness, disappointment, and pain. Exactly what we sought to avoid by keeping the pieces in a buried bag inside.

As we begin to see the value in the broken pieces, as we make one connection at a time to completing ourselves, we look forward to exploring and searching out more of our broken pieces and parts. In fact, with each connection, we jump for joy, laugh, and begin to see how much easier it is to complete ourselves, and the puzzle in our life when we have a view of all the pieces.

We start to tell others of this profound discovery. Slowly, but surely, others around us, test out the theory. The testimony of one person becomes the roadmap for another. During the puzzle completion, it took guidance from others, sharing their strategies or insights, to help the person see differently and complete the puzzle. Before then, the person was stuck.

When we can see differently and can help another to see differently, we create a ripple effect. We create greater and more beautiful masterpieces in the world that are of value and purpose. Shifting one’s own sight to look deep inside and begin to cherish all parts of oneself is a gift to yourself. Helping someone to see that the broken pieces are valuable and have a purpose, is a gift to them. Giving them hope and strength to persevere is encouraging.

We are masterpieces in the making. We are outstandingly incomplete without all the pieces of ourselves. When we can accept and cherish all of our parts, we will quickly be able to complete ourselves and become the masterpieces we are.

We have been broken over the years in various ways for a purpose. We were to learn to love all our parts and pieces. We were to cherish the moments of pain and brokenness. The brokenness was to help us discover all that we are through the pieces and allow us to choose how we put the puzzle of our life together. The search and desire lie within to find all the parts, even the missing ones. When we realize there are no missing parts or pieces, but only ones simply not visible through the ruins of brokenness, this gives us hope of seeking our completion.

Think about it. We were created and born complete and whole. Over time, for some, they were chipped away at, shattered, smashed, or forgotten. With the brokenness and chips, we look out to others and see their portrayal of perfection. It seems as if they have all their pieces put together. Eventually, something chips and we must go in search of the wholeness. It does not matter whether we only have a few chips missing or big pieces tossed all over, the hunt is the same.

Life is all pieces and parts. It is how we look at the pieces and if we choose to embrace them that will determine how long it takes for us to complete our masterpiece. We have all the parts, we must look at them all, open our mind to their value, and start creating. Remember, it takes time to create a masterpiece but it is done with each moment, day and week. The sooner we complete this task, the greater our impact on others and our own fulfillment will be.

Go looking, seeking, unburying, and treasuring all your pieces. You are a masterpiece in the making! Share your joy with the world as you discover new pieces about yourself and make new connections. Spread hope and encouragement to others.

Written by Jacquie Fazekas